'Nice Girl' Habits You Should Eliminate In A Relationship

In a relationship, protecting your self-respect is important for your happiness and the health of the relationship. Many women often adopt "nice girl" habits, which can lead to neglecting their own needs to make their partner happy. While being kind is good, these habits can lower your self-worth and create an unbalanced relationship. Cancelling plans with friends to accommodate his last-minute invitation: When you cancel plans with friends, you signal not only to your friends that you will bail on them if a better option comes along, but also to him that his schedule is more important than yours. This behavior teaches him he does not need to make plans in advance to hang out with you, while also devaluing your own needs. When you stand up for yourself, you fuel your self-respect, build your sense of inner confidence, and help him know how to treat you. Letting him "playfully" insult you even though it secretly hurts your feelings: He may say or do something that doesn't feel good, but there is the temptation to just let it go because no one wants to be "too sensitive." You should stop accepting those playful insults and have a thorough conversation about this with your partner. Getting physical before you are comfortable: What you want to avoid is saying yes before you are 100 percent ready. This includes kissing, fooling around, or sex. Many of us move things to the physical too early because we have been taught the myth that sex creates closeness. The truth is that men do not equate sex with emotional connection. Committed sex creates closeness in him once you have both chosen to be exclusive with each other. The key here is that it is a decision you both make. Forgiving him without expecting better behaviour: Forgiveness is necessary for your healing, but it does not mean allowing bad behavior to continue or staying in an unhealthy situation. Relationships are built on trust, which is created by making and keeping mutual agreements.