'I lost my virginity to older boyfriend - what he did after made me sick to my stomach'

A young woman has revealed what her boyfriend did that made her "sick to my stomach" after she had sex for the first time.

Loosing your virginity can often be accompanied with nervousness and a worry that you won't know what to do. Everyone's 'first time' is different - for some it is magical like in the films, and others it can be uncomfortable and awkward having never experienced it before.

One woman has revealed that she recently lost her virginity after having sex with her boyfriend - while the 20-year-old thought the experience would bring them closer together and solidify their bond, she was left feeling down with his cruel post sex act.

The upset woman took to Reddit's 'sex' forum recently to explain what happened. The individual, who wishes to remain unnamed, claims that shortly after the pair had done the deed, her 35-year-old partner sent her a long list of reasons of "everything she'd done wrong".

The woman said: "I lost my virginity to my boyfriend a couple days ago. I knew that going in I was going to be nervous and clumsy. The sex was pretty awkward and sometimes it hurt so I had to ask him to stop a bit." The woman, who admitted she was nervous throughout the ordeal, revealed that it was physically clear her partner was satisfied, but it turns out he wasn't too happy with how it went.

She added: "The next day I woke up to a text from him basically listing the things I did wrong during sex." In the message, the man told her to "be sexier" and "don't act awkward". "You're not a virgin so don't act like it," he also wrote.

He insisted she "needs to get better at shaving" and said he should be able to "try what he wants" and said "don't tell a guy to stop when he's getting into it". The horrifying message "blindsided" the young woman who admits she has been left feel "more self-conscious" and has been put off from having sex again.

She added: "So, don't get me wrong, I'm not against being told how I can do stuff better. I know that I'm not going to be great at sex obviously. I just don't really like the way he did it. I would have preferred being told face-to-face and in a more gentle manner.

"I don't like that he did it the morning after either. What if I can't perform next time? Am I going to wake up to even more texts?"

Reddit users were alarmed by the confession. One individual said: "Honey, take it as a lesson and run. Block this creep. He's a total idiot and loser and this is why he's dating young virgins, because unfortunately you don't know any better and he can 'train' you to what he likes. Sex should be enjoyable to both parties."

Another individual added: "Any partner who acutely cares for you will respect your mind and body enough to stop when it hurts, give you time to adjust to sex if you're new, and take your pleasure into account."

One other concerned individual commented wrote: "RUN! This guy doesn't care about you." Another added: "This is a guy who clearly views you as a sex object to use for his satisfaction and has no regard for your wants or needs during sex. He's trying to mould you."

"Open communication around sex and what you like or don’t like is really important," another pointed out.

No person is ever required to have sex with someone else. If you need advice or believe you are being abused, please seek help - Safeline is a specialist sexual violence and abuse charity led by the needs of its clients.

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