A woman has spoken out in support of legalising assisted dying after her mother, who suffered from Motor Neurone Disease (MND), begged to be "put to sleep".
The issue is set to be debated in Parliament next month, marking the first time MPs will have an initial vote on assisted dying in the in nearly a decade. Joy Roberts, 68, recounted the harrowing experience of her mother Irene Wright, who was diagnosed with at 89 in 2020 and endured a "fairly rapid deterioration". She lost the ability to move, eat, speak, or use the toilet without help.
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"She was not happy – she did talk about the fact that she wanted to die, that she wanted to go, she had had enough," Ms Roberts said, recalling her mother's struggle before she passed away in bed at age 90. "All she kept on saying was just, ‘put me to sleep, just put me to sleep, why can’t I just be put to sleep’. She did not want to go through that."
From Dorking, Surrey, Ms Roberts described how her mother's simple joys like cooking and were swiftly stripped away by the illness. "There was nothing that she could do other than sit on the sofa and read books and crossword puzzle books and things like that," said Ms Roberts, who is semi-retired. "That was also then very quickly taken away from her because she could no longer hold a pencil."
Ms Roberts said that the "final straw for her came when she could no longer eat" and had to be fed through a tube by nurses, which led to her becoming "very depressed" and unable to enjoy being around her great-grandchildren. "From that point on, I think my mother just wanted to go, simple as that," she said.
"In the end, her complete loss of any dignity... she just hated it. " "She just despised it, when she was having to wear adult nappies and she soiled herself on occasions and having to be cleaned up by carers – it was just excruciating for her."
Ms Roberts said that her mother had enjoyed a "wonderful life" before her diagnosis and would have "jumped" at the chance of assisted dying, if it had been available. "She’d been with my father for 68 years, so she had a very, very happy marriage, she had her children, her grandchildren, her great-grandchildren – there was nothing left to do, to achieve, to visit," said Ms Roberts.
"After she was diagnosed, she made a living will anyway, and my father did one at the same time, which clearly stated that if she got an infection, which was quite common through MND, that she wasn’t to be treated. So we did what we could within the legal framework to ensure that her agony wasn’t prolonged any more than it needed to be, but even so, just two or three months shorter would have just given her a much more dignified and happy death, instead it was a miserable one."
In the end, Ms Wright passed away in her sleep. "(There was) no one around her at the time, because we didn’t know from one day to the next, and it wasn’t predicted that she was likely to go at that particular point," Ms Roberts said. If she had been able to have an assisted death, Ms Roberts said her father Alan Wright "wouldn’t have had to go through that awful thing of waking up and finding her gone in the morning".
"We would have all been prepared for it, and she would have been so much happier if we could have just done it that little bit earlier," she added. Ms Roberts said she would urge MPs to support the legalisation of assisted dying in the UK.
"If you get to the point where you are not getting anything out of your life, and you know that you are dying, I think one would just have to question why you would want someone to be kept alive in those circumstances," she said. "If they were really miserable and potentially going to be in a lot of pain and experience a very unpleasant death, why would you not want your loved ones to die peacefully with the people that they love at a time of their choosing?".
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